Telling someone you care about them can be difficult in the best of circumstances. We say I love you to family as a matter of course, but how often do we express to them how much we like them? Telling someone of the opposite sex that you like and interested in them is much tougher and difficult to express.It is a nerve-racking experience.
Many people are naturally shy and nervous around people of the opposite sex, but if you’re one of them there are plenty of ways to overcome your shyness and gain the courage you need to tell that special person that you love them with all your heart. If you are to shy to tell it to him/her what you feel then express your feelings through actions..as we all know “Action speaks louder than words”.You can build up the courage and the comfort you need to say that you like them.
*Don’t be afraid of your feelings. When you hesitate to tell someone how you feel about them it’s because our feelings make us vulnerable. If you like someone, don’t let how they feel about you prevent you from experiencing your own emotions.
*Arrange to speak to the object of your affections in private. Privacy protects both of you from the vulnerability you are about to expose. Consider for a moment how you would feel if this person told you that he or she liked you.
*Use conversation to achieve your objective. In other words, don’t blurt it out, but don’t shrink away from saying it. You may say it as simply as: “I like you.” or “I’m intersted in you.” Or you may be more objective and say “I think you and I have a spark and a connection and I’d like to see where it goes. Care to find out with me?”
*Use your own language. Don’t say ‘um’ and don’t hesitate too much. If you find yourself pausing significantly, then you’re not ready to commit to your feelings to the one you like.
*Trust your instincts. Sometimes how you feel will blurt out in the middle of an argument, a movie or another moment of intense emotion. Sometimes you can’t control when that moment will happen. If you’re ready to tell someone how you feel, do it.
*Decide what you want to say, how you want to say it, and when and where you want to say it. Preparing a small speech beforehand will ease some of the tension. It will also keep you from stuttering or mumbling, and possibly looking awkward in front of the one you like. Furthermore, choose an opportune moment and place for your confession, such as when the two of you are alone together in a private location.
*Make sure that you are emotionally ready to take this important step(Rejection). It is imperative that you realize there is always the possibility of rejection. If someone you like doesn’t return the sentiment, you might find yourself extremely hurt or disappointed. Before you actually tell him how you feel, give yourself plenty of time to reflect on your decision.
*Prepare for her/his reaction. She/He may or may not feel the same way. Hopefully,someone you like will respond in kind. However, anticipating a possible rejection will help to lessen feelings of disappointment. In contrast, getting your hopes up will make a rejection that much more painful.
*Tell him/her how you feel. You can either say it directly ,or write him/her a note, or ask him out on a date. This is the hardest step, but you’ll be relieved once it’s over. Luckily, there is more than one way of divulging your feelings for another person. You can write him/her a cute little note, or ask a mutual friend to break the news. You can also ask him/her out on a traditional date, like dinner and a movie, and then tell him/her that you would like to date exclusively.
*Accept there response in a dignified manner. No matter what they say, accept it gracefully and thank them for being honest. If they tells you that they are not interested, it would be best not to dwell on it and try to move on.
