Creating a Perfect Date???.We all know that going on a date is such a big deal. After all a date is the only official time when two people really get to hang out, talk and find out more about each.Yes, late night phone calls are adventurous and e-cards at work are cute but it is actually when you spend time in each other’s company that really tells you whether this rendezvous is worth the effort.
Thus it is only natural that you would want your dates to be perfect one. A little candlelight, some chocolates and Celine in the background? Of course. But is it enough? Of course not. The perfect date is like a great painting or a scrumptious lobster bisque. It takes time, effort and above all,creativeness and imagination. So grab a cushion and read on as we tell you the secrets to creating The Perfect Date.
The Perfect Place
“Love don’t cost a thing”
The perfect place for a date doesn’t necessarily mean an ultra-expensive candlelit French restaurant. Nor does it mean a box tickets to a box office movie. If it’s a first date, you don’t want the place to give off intense romantic vibes or be loud and noisy where you can’t talk in comfort. So go for someplace neutral like a coffee shop and share a cuppa or some place tha you could find very comfortable for both of you to take a time to talk.
For future dates try to hone into what your date likes. If she’s into theatre, a play would be perfect. If he likes indoor sports, bowling might just be the solution. The very first date makes or breaks the deal. So pay attention on the first date to what your partner is saying. That’ll give you hints about what he or she likes. Then if you’re on for a second date, suggest possible dating places that you think might please your date and make plans accordingly and smoothly.
Always remember that money isn’t the main factor. Having fun and connection is. A date can be inexpensive yet fun all the same. And remember, inexpensive doesn’t mean thrown-together-in-five-minutes. What you need in such cases is a little creativity and imagination. So don’t obsess about the price tag.
TThe Perfect Outfit
“Fashion can be bought. Style one must possess.”
As superficial as it may sound, what you wear to your dates, especially your very first one, can be of considerable significance. Yes appearance does matter, well at least initially. It’s okay to be a 30-year-old die-hard Elvis fan. But it isn’t okay to turn up on a date with Elvis’s hair and pants.
Clothes tell people about your individual style, how fashionable you are and even provide people with a window into your personality. But if you’re confused about what to wear, consult your friend or go pick a fashion magazine or simply opt for one of the two safety nets: one, wear business casuals (after all work does require a certain amount of decorum); or two, that one outfit everyone says “you look great in it”. And while you’re at it, don’t forget to take the location into account. After all you don’t want to dine in dungarees or trainers at a five-star hotel.
The Perfect Gift
“Give a little bit”
Flowers, chocolates, perfumes and cufflinks? Seems to be about right doesn’t it?But your Wrong! Not every girl eats chocolates and not every guy wears cufflinks.
So how does one figure it out on what to give to his/her date? Simple… Just Listen. Both sexes have a tendency of talking about things they like without even realizing that they have done it. And during the initial dates people talk about common interests to break the ice. That gives you a glimpse into the person’s personality as well as preferences.
If she tells you about Candace Bushnell’s latest novel, chances are she’ll like “The Devil Wears Prada”. If he tells you how he fixed his bike all by himself, a subscription to “Top Gear” might just be the one that he likes.
TThe Perfect Match
“Don’t like me yet? Have another drink.”
Dates are the perfect way to find out about each other. And the best way to do that is by talking and more importantly listening. Give your date your full and undivided attention while she/he is speaking. Don’t keep on acting like you know it all even if you really don’t know it all. And don’t use what she/he is saying as a jump off point to highlight some great feat that you have accomplished. No one likes a know-it-all and a self-promotion is a no promotion at all. You don’t have to prove how simply wonderful you are. Let your date make that decision and let him/her discover your true self. After all, humility too, is a virtue.
In the end, the perfect date is about making new discoveries, giving a part of yourself to someone and all in all hoping that it all leads to something more permanent. So take a deep breath, pop some mints and just be yourself. And don’t forget, have fun!
