“Every moment you spend with the wrong man
is a moment you’re missing out with the right one”
Five signs that you are not just into him.
1. You don’t think about him much when you’re apart.
If there are real sparks with a guy, he is constantly on your — you see his face in crowds, you reread his texts, you plan out your next date in your mind over and over. When you’re not truly attracted to him, he pops into your brain infrequently, and when he does, there’s no heart-thumping anticipation.
2. You don’t want him to meet your friends and family.
Even if he’s a good, solid guy, you may worry that he won’t impress the people closest to you because he doesn’t really impress you either. Another reason you may be keeping him under wraps is that you are afraid that friends and family members will sense a lack of excitement on your part and ask you why you’re with a man you’re not head-over-heels for.
3. It doesn’t bother you when he goes out without you.
He says he’s hanging with some co-workers Friday night. You tell him to have a good time and you’ll talk later. If you don’t feel a twinge of discomfort when he makes lots of solo plans, it’s a red flag.
4. You’re not excited to hook up with him.
Everyone feels too tired or too stressed for sex every once in a while, but if you rarely look forward to getting naked with him, you need to reevaluate the relationship. If you don’t feel physical chemistry, the emotional kind probably isn’t there either.
5. You wonder if other guys you meet are available.
You may not think there’s anything wrong with secretly sizing up another guy’s date-ability potential; you’re not giving him your phone number or anything. But it’s a tip-off that you’re kind of looking and assessing your options.
