Flirting is a basic instinct and essential aspect of human interaction. Flirting too much can put people off and make it seem like you are only after one thing. However, flirting too little can make you look uninterested. Here are some do’s and don’ts in the art of flirting.

Flirting Do’s

* Do smile. This is the most important thing you can do when flirting as it shows you are friendly, comfortable and is having a good time.
* Do make regular direct eye contact. Hole their gaze a little tonger than usual but don’t force it and stare. Make it look natural.
* Do talk about things you like and enjoy. Talk about your interests but avoid controversial topics and things you dislike.
* Do ask questions. Ask the person you are flirting with about things you are talking about to show you are listening and is interested.
* Do give sincere compliments People love to be flattered.
* Do touch them casually. This can be appreciated but be careful and don’t overdo it.
* Appear confident. Sit up straight with your chin up when flirting, slouching will give off the wrong impression.
* Be polite. If you are introduced, always offer your hand to shake, repeat their name and say hello clearly.

Remember: Use the above mentioned moderately. Don’t overdo it or it may seem fake or forced.

Flirting Don’ts
* Don’t use those silly pick up lines. They simply don’t work and will only make you look like a fool.
* Don’t be negative. Saying that you hate things and the like makes you sound negative and being negative is always a mistake when flirting.
* Don’t fidget. Fidgeting will make it look like you are uncomfortable and nervous. This might be the case, but you don’t want to let the person you are flirting with to know.
* Don’t cross your arms across your chest. makes yoou look defensive and the last thing you are trying to be when flirting is defensive.
* Never look down when speaking while flirting Look at the person you are flirting with and try to make regular eye contact. Remember you are flirting with them, you’re not flirting with the ground.

Dating on a college campus has lots of advantages. This may be the easiest time in your life for you to meet people! Usually there are plenty of fun and inexpensive activities to do around campus. On the other hand, college dating can be complicated because it takes place in an atmosphere filled with stress, drama, and gossip. Here are some simple dating advice DO’s and DON’Ts to keep in mind.

DO’S

* DO look for people to date in your classes. They’re likely to have similar interests. The main reason is that you may have more in common in the way of interests than what you’ve bargained for.In addition, you have a built-in way to meet them. “Hey, you’re in my English class, right? Did you understand yesterday’s lecture?”

* DO be cautious about meeting people in bars and parties, especially if alcohol is involved. Yes, you can meet people this way, but they aren’t always the people you really want to get to know. Alcohol personalities are way different from the true self of an individual.

* DO avoid drama. One of the hardest parts of about college relationships is that you’re surrounded by constant drama in your friendship groups. Keep your relationship as drama free as possible.

* DO go on dates outside of college. A little “real life” will do you good! Something as simple as a trip to the TGIFriday’s outside of town will be a nice break.

* DO watch movies together, either at a theater or on a DVD player. Movies make a great college date because they’re relaxing and cheap. Here are some ideas for college date movies.

* DO be cautious about dating multiple people on campus. If everyone agrees, there’s nothing wrong with this. However, you’re all bound to run into each other on campus. Messy situations are likely.

* DO be cautious about getting involved sexually. College is an emotionally charged environment, so sexual relationships get emotionally charged as well. Never, ever

*DO anything you’re not completely comfortable with. Insist on using a condom every time. And there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin in college.

* DO think carefully about getting engaged or getting married during or shortly after college. Many young marriages last forever, but many more do not. Never consider marriage because you feel it’s the “thing to do” after college.

*DO try and show patience towards one another. It’s only natural that you and your date are stressed out with the educational side of college life, so be aware of that baggage.

*DO try to date off-campus once in a while. Chances are the change will do you good and you’ll get to venture out into new territory — especially if you’re from another area.

*DO exercise caution when it comes to dating more than one partner. Most of the time this can breed some volatile consequences, especially if all of you happen to run into each other at the same time. That just gets too sticky to deal with.

*DO Tell someone where you’re going — and when you’ll be back. You don’t have to spill all the juicy details, but at least let someone know what your plans are.

*DO go with another couple. If you’re not quite sure how interested you are in someone, go out with a bunch of people. You can disguise it (”I’d love to check out this new club with you, and some friends of mine are going on Saturday…”) while still making sure you aren’t stuck alone.

DON’TS

* DON’T date people in your dorm or apartment complex—or if you do, proceed with caution. If you break up, you’re going to be stuck with each other for the rest of the year. If you do stay together, you’re going to be the subject of gossip.

* DON’T even consider a date with one of your professors or TAs. Though it may be a different story once the class is over, it’s one of the biggest DON’Ts there is in college.It might be okay to date them after the course is over, but be aware of the problems that come along with dating your professor.

* DON’T spread secrets about your partner. This is always a bad idea, but it’s worse on a campus where gossip spreads quickly.

* DON’T cheat on your partner. Not that cheating is ever a good idea, but on campus, getting caught is very easy!

* DON’T ever drink excessively on a date unless you are completely sure you can trust the person you are with. Know your limit with alcohol.

* DON’T ever allow yourself to be alone on a date until you know you can trust the person you are with. Date rape as a serious epidemic of college campuses, and yes, it can happen to you. Always err on the side of caution.

*DON’T tolerate the drama queens. Who has time for it? You’re under enough stress already just trying to get an education. So tell her to “Save the drama for your mama!”

*DON’T risk losing a good friendship by trying to date their “ex”. Real friendships are few and far between in this world. Even if they say it’s ok, I would still caution against it.

Finally, DON’T get involved in the cheating game. Cheating in any relationship is just wrong, but when you are in a campus setting, it’s way too easy to get busted for this.

DO’S

Do: Dress to impress
You would dress conservatively when going for a job interview. The same applies here. Don’t wear itsy- bitsy dresses or show up looking like you are ready to go camping. Make sure your dress is comfortable. There is nothing more distracting than a date fiddling with their dress through out the allotted ten minutes. Make sure your hair is well groomed, wear good shoes and use cologne or after- shave. Speed dating is all about first impressions, and the well-groomed and fashionable tend to get the more positive scores.

Do: Create a Resume.
No, you don’t need to sit down at the mini date and wave a copy of your resume into the face of every guy/gal you get to speed date. This is one resume you make for your self. List down on this resume your current ‘life – stage’. A life stage mentions in one sentence, where you are in life right now for e.g. ‘a thirty something single with a successful career, looking for companionship’, or a ‘single parent looking for support’ Then put down two paragraphs, one about yourself and one about the kind of person you are looking for. When writing down what you are looking for in your date be specific. Someone ‘romantic’ can be someone who takes you out for a candle light dinner or someone who gives you a high by dancing with you all night. Be specific about your kind of ‘romantic’. Also list down things which are ‘deal – breakers’. If you can’t stand cigarette smoke, a smoker is a no – no and if you are allergic to cats, a person with pets is out of the fray. Once you are done, get a good friend to read through these to give you a reality check. You will now be much better prepared to pick the right people in three minutes.

Do: Be prepared.
Before going for an interview, you read up about the company and prepare questions you would like answered about the position. In pretty much the same way, come up with a list of questions you would like your date to answer in the ten minutes you have. Bringing a notepad and make notes on everyone that you like .Frantically scribble down everything you can remember as soon as they stand up – before the next ‘date’, otherwise you’ll likely forget the details, or confuse them with the next date, if you wait. Don’t lose this sheet. Use these notes as a reference when you get the emails pouring in over the next couple of days.

Do: Set some expectations.
Speed dating may be a great way of meeting many different people, but that doesn’t mean you’d be having a string of dates after this. Just let the event (and the attraction) take its course.

Do: Let them know you are interested.
If you like your date, use your flirting techniques. Give your date some eye contact and occasional friendly touching. Use your date’s name often.

Do: Prepare your questions beforehand.
Have a number of stock questions ready. It may take only a few minutes, but it’s better than saying nothing.

Do: Always fill out the scorecard after each rotation.
Whether you like your date or not, write your marks on the card before meeting the next person. There is nothing worse than getting to the end of the night and pondering about what is the name of that special guy you just met.

Do: Give your e-mail address on your prospects.
Although it may be tempting to give out your digits, e-mail contact is safer—and more fun—to start with.

Do: Use the break time to chat and meet.
Some speed dating events allow daters to roam around the place after the event. If you feel that you made a fool out of yourself on someone you like, don’t be scared to make an approach later for a second chance.

Do: Relax.
Anxiety in potential partners is one of the biggest turn off. Don’t be nervous and just be yourself.

Do: Smile.
There’s no quicker way to improve your looks and make a great impact than to smile. Psychology and body language experts agree that it’s one of the most effective ways to make yourself more attractive and approachable. It’s not necessary to do your most convincing game show spokes model impression – just your usual “I’m having a great time and I’m happy to be here” face will do the trick.- look happy to be there and just interested in finding out more about the ladies

Do: Wear The Color Cue.
Stand out from the crowd.If you want to create an on-the-spot thrill, wearing red is the way to go. According to color experts, the most stimulating color you can wear is red, which actually increases blood flow. (And mimics attraction.)
In addition, women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why wouldn’t we be, an expert says, guys who frequently wear blue are “stable, faithful and always there.” The blue guy is a fabulous candidate for a long-term relationship — someone who’s dependable, monogamous and can match his own clothes.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what some calls “squished caterpillar yellow-green” which is said to repel both sexes equally.

Do: Strive to be an interesting conversationalist; stay clear from the typical senseless drivel.
A good way to start would be to scan the newspaper headline everyday; newspaper headlines always make good conversation starters.

Do: Choose topics of interest.
These topics can range from current events to an upcoming movie or concert.

Do:Make them laugh;they are definitely more likely to remember you when you make them laugh.
Laughter also makes her more relax and comfortable around you as laughing release the feel good hormone.

Do: Show confidence and try not to act nervous.

Do :Be positive and enthusiastic.
Don’t bring up negative conversations i.e. the bad day you had today, your negative character traits, deep regrets you have about your past behavior that are no longer relevant to your life etc.

Do :Be yourself; don’t pretend to be someone you are not.
As long as you are yourself and not pretending to be someone you are not, with a little humor, a dose of sensitivity and a lot of confidence you’ll definitely go places.

Do: If you fail, try and try again.
It sometimes takes a while to get back into the dating swing of things.If you don’t try you will never succeed.

Do: Have fun the whole event.
Be playful and interesting – calm and relaxed is key.

Do: Try and maintain good eye contact.

Do: Work out some good questions before turning up.

Do: Ask some good and unique questions that will make her think.

Do: Be careful how much you drink.

Do: Take a friend for support if it’s your first time.

Do: When you get their contact info, follow up right away and set up another fun date.

Do: Tell the truth.
You’ll get found out and made to look the fool!

Do: Have an open mind.
You’ll meet loads of different people from different backgrounds, having an open mind means that you’ll be open to the options presented to you.

Do: Be Original.
Since pretty much every one asks the same questions, you’ll have better results and be more memorable if you’re original. Think of an unusual question or a joke you can tell to make people laugh. Believe me, it will help break the ice and you will end up being the most memorable guy (or girl) there!

Do: Arrive a bit early at the event to get familiar with the surroundings

Do: Always use the person’s name for a friendly approach

Do: Remember you’re only aiming for a 2nd date – not marriage.
So don’t make it a bigger deal in your head than it really is

Do: Be careful what you eat.
Your date would probably not enjoy seeing you gorge on noodles. Stick to small, non-spicy food that you can share with your date.

Do: Admit your fears.
It can be endearing if you tell your partner it’s your first time. If that’s the only thing that comes into your head in the conversation, feel free to share it. However if it’s your 37th time – it won’t work!

DON’TS

Don’t: Whine.
You would not inundate the interviewer at the job interview with whines about past bosses and bitchy co workers. Stick to the same rule here. Do not mention your ‘ex’, the guy who stalked you ( or the one you stalked )! Also avoid territory that leads to talk about a dysfunctional family or myriad diseases plaguing anyone around you. Ten minutes can be a very long time if one has to listen to someone go on about the digestive disorder their senile aunt suffered from a few months back.

Don’t : Use Negatives
At a job interview the you skirt all your negatives and accentuate all positives. At a speed date too, accentuate your positives. Do not inundate the guy/girl you are talking too, with a list of everything that’s wrong with you. It’s not a confessional and you don’t have to get all your sins off your chest right now. But that does not mean that you feel free to lie to come up looking good. Be honest yourself – only then would you be able to expect honesty from others.

Don’t: babble… keep it short and sweet and if you can – keep them hanging on and wanting to find out more.

Don’t: Tell lies.
It might seem like a good idea at the time, but holding on to the lie that you are a brain surgeon or a ballerina would backfire if you meet again.

Don’t: Swear excessively.
You also be turned off on a sight of your date saying bad words, so should you be avoid using expletives in your conversation.

Don’t: Talk overtly on controversial topics.
Don’t dominate the conversation. Just like in a normal date, do not talk about politics and religion in your speed dating. Not only it might result in unnecessary conflict, it would be highly unlikely that you date would be interested anyway.

Don’t: Get too drunk.
Sure you need a shot of alcohol or two to erase the tension in you, but drinking too much is not flattering on a person, multiply that with the number of speed dating attendees.

Don’t: Let your guard down.
Observe basic safety guidelines when meeting matches. Make sure that you are meeting in a public place, you told your friend where you are going, and don’t give out your home address too easily.

Don’t talk about your ex.

Don’t: Date with your friend sitting next to you.
The temptation to listen in and chat with them will be a distraction. And your partners will not thank you for it.

Don’t:Expect them to do the work.
There’s 2 people sitting at the table. You need to hold up your end of the conversation – even if you decided before you sat down that it wasn’t going anywhere

Don’t: Be nasty.
Even if you feel like they’re doing it to you, you never know who their friends are. The gorgeous guy or girl you meet 3 dates later may well be their best mate – and they will compare notes on you.

Don’t: Ask about their jobs or their home address.

Conversation Starters

Speed dating can be a bit intimidating to start with and you can sometimes run out of things to say. Here’s a list of conversation starters if you get stuck. Just one of these can keep you going:

What’s your favorite word?

What makes you smile?

What is your most treasured possession and why?

What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?

What would be the title of your auto biography?

Do you like to read? What?

What do you think is the most important value of a relationship?

What song would be on the soundtrack to your life?

What would you do with a paid year off?

What are you passionate about?

What is one of your best / worst attributes?

What do your friends think of you?

If the day had one more hour…how would you spend it?

Do you have a pet?..and what would it be?

What is one thing you would like me to know about you?

What’s your favorite kind of food?

How to you feel about politics?

Did you go to college? Where? Graduate?

If you could drive any car… what would it be? What kind of car do you drive?

What kind of movie do you pay to see and what kind do you wait to rent?

Is religion important to you?

Where do you see yourself in five years?

What made you sign up for Speed dating?

Tell me about your favorite vacation? What made it so good?

If you had a day off next week and plenty of cash, what would you do?

What’s your favorite holiday memory?

If you were an animal, what would you be?

If you could try any job for one day – what would you choose?

What do you do to relax?

What’s your favorite movie and why?

Would you rather spend a day in the woods or at the beach? Why?

Tell me about a sporting event you’ll never forget

Tell me about your favorite vacation? What made it so good?

The thing about first dates is… you have to endure them in order to have a second date (and a third… and so on.)

First dates can be awkward or terrific, nerve-racking or sublime.
But whether you’re meeting someone you’ve only chatted with online, or hooking up with a blind date, first dates can be exciting and fun if you follow these pointers.

Dating DO’S

Do: Choose a place you both are comfortable and familiar with.
If one of you is fighting traffic or worse, lost, you’re bound to have unnecessary tension before you even arrive.
Likewise if you pick a spot where you or your date might feel uncomfortable.

Do: Groom yourself before your date.
Make sure you are freshly showered, have fresh breath and have an outfit on that flatters you.
Save your crazy or overly sexy outfits for when you get to know the person better.

Do: Be on time.
You may feel it’s better to be a few minutes late so you don’t feel silly waiting for your date, but that just means your date will be waiting for you.
Treat your date as an important meeting so you’re sure to show him or her the respect they deserve.
Plan ahead, leave early, and account for any possible delays in traffic.

Do: Smile and give eye contact when greeting your date.
This may sound like a simple point, but too often daters are nervous or in a hurry, and don’t focus immediately upon the person who has taken time out of their day to simply meet them.
Show your date you appreciate their effort, look at them and say hello when you arrive, rather than looking around for a table (or an escape!)

Do: Ask meaningful questions that will give you a glimpse into your date’s personality.
Listen to your date and provide input into your conversations.
The first date is generally an audition for further meetings, so use it to your advantage by trying to find out as much information about your date as possible.
You don’t need their life history, but what you do need is to get a sense if this person is someone you’ll want to see again.

Do: Set a time limit on the date in advance.
This will ease any stress in trying to end the date and allow you to go home and reflect on it to better decide if you’d like a second meeting.

Do: Be Yourself.
When you are on a date, you want to make a great impression — yet you can be really nervous, so sometimes it might be hard to come across as yourself.
It is so important to be honest and just let your true colors shine through.
If your date doesn’t like you for YOU, then you don’t want to date him/her anyway.

Do: Be a Good Listener.
Seriously, just close your mouth for a couple of minutes and listen to what your date says.
Not only will you probably learn something, but your date will be so much more attracted to you.
Listening shows your date that you actually care about what he/she has to say.

Do: Try and Have Fun.
Even though you are nervous it is important to shake your jitters and actually try and have some fun.
Obviously you are dating this person for a reason, so enjoy his/her company and whatever activity the two of you decide to do on your date.
If you focus on having fun and enjoying spending time with your date, it will go well.

Do: Make Eye Contact.
This is essential to making sure your date is a success.
Making eye contact with your date shows that you are fully there, meaning listening, staying interested and engaged with him/her.
Fight the nerves and urge to stare at your feet and look into your date’s eyes when the two of you are speaking.

Do: Give Compliments.
You like this person, so take the opportunity to compliment him/her on their appearance, the information they share with you and anything else that makes sense in the moment. Both guys and girls respond well to compliments because it reinforces that you like them and appreciate them. This is vital to a great date.

Do: Laugh at His/Her Jokes.
Laughter fights the nerves, breaks the ice and reinforces the relationship between you and your date.
If your date makes a joke … laugh. It’s really that simple.
You don’t want to force laughter, but if you feel it coming on, a giggle goes a long way.
There is chemistry in two people laughing in unison.

DO: Expect the person to put their best foot forward.
If they do not make an extra effort in the beginning they won’t later and honestly don’t deserve your time.
They need to do all the basics, pay the bill, open the car door and walk you to the door, for the boys. Use good manners, don’t interrupt and refrain from any profanities, girls and boys.

DO: Talk about your interests, hobbies and passions.
People like people who have things going on, are excited about life and that feel strongly about things that are important to them.

DO: Have something in mind when you ask someone out.
No matter which gender does the asking have a couple scenarios in mind to offer out as suggestions.
As much as you think you are being polite when you say “I don’t care, you decide” to someone, it shows lack of motivation, willingness to take a chance, and of personal interests and the inability to make a plan or decision.

DO: Be realistic about your wants and needs.
It’s ok to recognize that someone seems to fit all the criteria you are looking for but there seems to be something missing.
Follow your gut. There are plenty of wonderful people out there but they are not all for you.
Acknowledge their good qualities in a genuine way and don’t force yourself to make it work just because you want to be involved with someone.

Do: Be polite and have manners.
Offer to pay for all or half of the date even if you are a woman.
Say “please” and “thank you” and be respectful of the other person’s feelings.

Do: Let your friends and family know you are dating.
You never know when someone you know may try playing matchmaker for you.
It may or may not work out but you should be open to meeting someone new.

Dating DON’TS

Don’t: Be inflexible with your plans.
You might have an idea of what you’d like to do, but be respectful of your date’s wishes.
Remember that where you actually meet isn’t as important as the time you’ll be spending together.
Focus on just getting to know your date, not on hanging out at your favorite place.

Don’t: Dress inappropriately.
Aim for business casual attire. No sweats. Nothing frumpy.
Nothing too provocative or low-cut. Go easy on the makeup, and make sure your hair is properly groomed.
First impressions count on a date, and physical appearance counts as much as personality.
You may not mind your girlfriend or boyfriend dressing sloppy after you’ve gone out with them a while, but for a first date make sure you’re presenting the best possibly image you can.

Don’t: Answer cell phone calls.
Seriously, this is typically one of the biggest dating pet peeves.
It’s rude on a first date for your cell phone to even ring.
The best bet is to turn your phone off, or set it to mute.
Remember, your first date is only going to be about an hour and you should be able to live without looking to see if someone has called you.
Not only is it annoying, but it makes your date think that you are not taking your time together seriously.
If you must keep your phone on, let any calls you receive go through to voice mail, and bring the focus immediately back to your date.

Don’t: Monopolize the conversation.
Ask questions to give your date a chance to talk so you can both find out about each other.
While you are trying to get to know your date, you aren’t there to drill them for every detail of their life.

Don’t: Pretend to Be Someone You’re Not.
Be proud of who you are.
No one is impressed with someone that lies or has to exaggerate who they are.
Be yourself and you will find the right person who likes the real you … instead of the made up one.

Don’t: Make a Snap Judgement.
Guys and girls both get nervous on dates, so try not to make snap judgements about his/her character due to some silly comments and nervous actions.
Some times when we are nervous we don’t always act like ourselves, so give someone a second chance if they didn’t completely impress you the first date.

Don’t: Be Late.
Nothing says, “I don’t take this date or you seriously” like being late.
Plan accordingly and BE ON TIME.
There is nothing more annoying then leaving your date hanging not knowing if you are standing him/her up or not.
If you are running late, then be a decent person and call your date to let him/her know.

Don’t: Be Too Aggressive or Direct.
There is nothing that will make your date run in the opposite direction then you being too aggressive or direct.

Don’t: Talk about previous relationships, being in love with the person, controversial issues or anything like that.
Just chill out and have a good, light-hearted time with your date.

Don’t: Leave Him/Her Hangin’.
If you like your date and want to see him/her again let them know.
When the date comes to an end, you both are unsure about what’s next, so take charge and tell him/her that you would like to get together again.
And if you say you are going to call … you BETTER call.
There is nothing more frustrating when you like someone and they blow you off.

Don’t: Be or act desperate.
No one wants to be with someone that is needy.
Be fun, have fun and others will gravitate towards you if you are truly just being you and enjoying yourself whether others are paying attention or not.

Don’t: Talk about your previous relationships.
You’re not headed on a Carnival cruise so leave the baggage at home.
There will be plenty of time later if you get involved to discuss what you have learned from other relationships.
Talking about that right up front will give the impression that you are obsessing over it or haven’t really let it go.

Don’t: Over do the date.
If you are having a good time enjoy it but don’t keep extending the original date beyond what you originally planned in the beginning.
When you’re excited, and maybe some other adjectives, you might not be thinking with your head.
If you think you may want a relationship with this person, rushing into things on the first few dates is probably not the best choice.
End the date when you planned and just look forward to the next one before you take it too far and then regret it.

What do Casual Relationships?

A casual relationship may be part time, or for a limited time, and may or may not be monogamous. The term encompasses friendships between people who enjoy each other physical intimacy but do not aspire to be long-term, and may or may not involve parties who desire temporary relationships purely for hedonistic purposes. In each case, the relationship’s dominance in the lives of those involved is being voluntarily limited, and there is usually a sense that the relationship is intended to endure only so long as both parties wish it to.
To the extent such relationship include casual sexual contact, the relationship is generally focused on fulfilling sexual rather than romantic or emotional needs.

First of all, a casual relationship should still follow the tips for serious relationships, because the inherent honesty and forthrightness will benefit any couple, whether they’re new friends, a long-term dating couple, or even newlyweds. Casual relationships, however, can benefit from some additional dating tips:

• Don’t take the relationship too seriously. If one person expresses frustration or anger at another reluctance to participate in a certain activity or curtail their other time commitments, it will tarnish the casual relationship with a feeling of exclusivity and possessiveness that neither party wants.

• Experiment with new activities. A casual date is the perfect opportunity to explore new opportunities that you may be nervous about  trying alone. Perhaps your companion has more experience or unique ideas – this is the time to try them out without a long-term commitment.

• Carefully define what “friends” means. For one person, a casual date may mean something completely different than another expectations. By defining what you are and are not willing to do in the relationship, you develop a strong bond with mutual respect and trust.

Final Thoughts

Dating is not for the faint of heart. Preparation, honesty, and flexibility are the keys to a successful date no matter what the circumstances. Honestly, if the guy truly loves you and doesn’t want to lose you, he will risk being in relationship with you.You know that you deserve being in a relationship, so don’t accept anything below that. I think you should hint that you would leave him if your guy don’t take it to the next level.