How to impress your date? Just relax. We all know how nerve racking a date could be..but you could still work it out.
One of the worst things you can do on a date is making yourself look like a pompous sort. Besides being a major turn-off, looking arrogant can ruin your reputation. It is the fastest way you can take a good date and turn it into a nightmare.
There are many ways in which you can impress your date.. The best thing that you would do is to step your best foot forward,..I mean..Follow your heart and you will soon be charming her off her feet /charing him off his feet.
*Groom Yourself. Properly groom yourself for the date. Take a shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and dress in clean, wrinkle-free clothes that are appropriate for the date. It is important that for this first date you look as good as you can. Your date will be observing you from head to toe. Dress nicely but appropriately. For instance, if you decide to go to a nice restaurant wear nice pants and nice shirts(men) and nice dress(women). No excuse, there are many places where you can find a nice inexpensive clothes.
*Joke around. A joke or a funny story should be helpful in breaking the ice. Laughing together also eases both of you into the situation and also shows you as a humorous and charismatic person. Start with an old joke that everybody is familiar with. It may sound corny but think of it as a warm up. Laugh at the corniness of your joke. Then unleash funnier jokes after that. Test your jokes out with friends
first. If most people like it, you are probably on the right track. Unless you know this person really well, stay away from overly dirty jokes.
*Be chivalrous(for men). Some people think that flowers and chivalry are so passé, but most women still don’t see it this way. You are sure to impress your date by bringing flowers for her. While roses are always nice, try to be more creative and different and bring something different. Talk to the florist and find out interesting facts about the flowers you pick. Hold doors open for your date to pass through. You can also pull out her chair for her to sit, showing how much of a gentleman you are. Just be careful not to yank out the chair so far that she falls on her behind. These actions show that you are a well-mannered and chivalrous man without necessarily being a pig.Chivalry isn’t dead and it shouldn’t die with you. Having good manners is a major plus on how to impress a date. If you’re taking your date to a fancy restaurant, at least know how things are done in there. Practice good etiquette, open the door for a woman, and don’t yell at the waiter. For women, don’t attempt to emasculate the man and for men, don’t make the woman feel incapable. It’s a fine line you have to walk on but just remember… good manners never hurt anyone and you would do well to show you’re evolved. Politeness is certainly one way on how to impress your date.
*Make the date about her/him. Without being too nosy, ask your date about herself/himself. Find out about her/his interests, career, hobbies and ideas. Often people try too hard to impress other people by talking about themselves, when the easiest way to impress someone is by asking questions about them. Compliments also make a good impression. Find something that you truly admire about her/him – her/his outfit, intelligence, anything that you find particularly remarkable about her/him, your date will greatly appreciate your thoughtfulness and attention.
*Be attentive. This is not just about how to impress your date but a date is your chance to get to know someone special. You can’t do this if your attention is someplace else. Try to avoid distractions by turning off your cell phone (or at least the ringer) and focusing on your date. When they talk, listen attentively and don’t interrupt. It’s not only rude; it also shows you’re not really interested in what they have to say. Few men are truly attentive. You listen, you pay attention to a degree, but you’re not really attentive. If you really want to impress a woman on a first date, be genuinely, super duper duper attentive. What does this mean? It means order her another drink before the one she’s drinking is totally gone. It means open the car door and the door of the venue for her. It means look into her eyes when she’s talking, or when she’s talking to you. Basically, be a man and not a boy — but don’t coddle or make a big fuss. Being attentive does not mean be a doormat, it just means show your interest all night, as opposed to just the part when you’re trying to score a goodnight… um… kiss. I once went on a date with a man who was so unbelievably attentive that I still have to smile when I think about it.
*Have fun and don’t expect too much. This will eliminate any unnecessary pressure on you both and make you look cool.
*Another sure way on how to impress your date is make dinner. If you’re a mean cook, volunteer to host dinner for two. A full-course dinner shows that you put a lot of thought into your date and that you have a useful skill. Plan your dinner from the appetizer to dessert and show off your specialty dish. Just make sure to watch out for any food allergies your date might have or if he’s vegetarian, you better not serve meat.
*Hold back on too much information. Does your date really have to know why you got fired from your last job? Do you have to tell your date about that boil the size of a cherry tomato that you got operated on last week? Or do you absolutely have to tell that story of how you got drunk in Mexico and attempted to bull-fight a sheep? Guess not. Certainly, these things are not included on how to impress your date.
*Another way on how to impress your date is to avoid the basics. Ask any man or woman what his or her idea of a date is and you’ll probably get the standard answer: movie, dinner and coffee. If you want to learn how to impress your date, find other ways to do and places to go to. Go on a hot air balloon ride or horseback riding or if your date loves art, go to an exhibit by an artist he or she admires. Drive your date to a winery and participate in wine tasting or arrange to have a private tour of a museum or historical place.
*Do not complain about everything. Family, friends, work, boss, car, weather, taxes, and gasoline prices should stay out of the conversation. Instead, try to smile and let her know that you are a fun person – not someone boring who she has to talk to.
*Buy her flowers(for men). Girls love to receive them. If you want to get her something small instead, buy a candle or a picture frame (not with your picture in it). You want her to know that you were thinking about them while you were apart and that you remember what she likes. Just don’t go overboard.
*Be courteous(men). Hold the door and help her with her coat; pull out chairs, do not interrupt her, do not talk on the cellphone on a date, and do not look at other people in the room.
* Ask her about herself/Ask him about himself . Try not to be too nosy – don’t ask any personal questions. Make her/him feel good about her/his career, hobbies, interests, and opinions. Listen attentively as well. People generally hate it when they are asked the same question twice because it tells them that you were not listening the first time. Do not pry into personal matters, and do not tell about private matters in your life.
*Make a Compliment. Tell your date that he looks handsome or she looks lovely, smells good, is intelligent, has a beautiful house – anything that will make her/him smile. It counts.
* Talk about your interests and be relatively open with them. Talk about her/his interests as well, and try to focus on mutual interests, since both of you will be able to contribute. Who knows? She/He may like the things you like and know a lot more about them than you thought she/he would. What about history, cars, music, movies? Your date may very well share some of your interests, and it could make for a great conversation and allow you both to find some common ground.
*Mind your manners. Be polite and respectful to the wait staff and others you encounter. Refrain from inappropriate jokes or suggestions. Watch Your Manners. There is nothing more disgusting than the sight of your date stuffing food in his mouth one after the other. One major turn off is also a quick case of make up and lipstick retouch in the table. It’s not a crime to excuse yourself for a while to go the powder room and do your deed. It isn’t that you need to act like a princess when dining out with your date; just be conscious enough to know the do’s and don’ts. Laughing your heart out when your date tells something which you find really funny is alright, but not to the point of spewing your food all over the table, more so on your date. Be natural, but be refined.
*Just Relax. Butterflies in the stomach, mice running in your heart and the nauseous feeling are normal when going on a first date with someone. However, if you do not loosen up, the worse case that could happen is you won’t be able to say any sane thing to your date. Relax and remind yourself that you are on a date to enjoy, not to be stressed.
*Be Appreciative. Before the night ends, take time to thank your date for spending time with you. You don’t have fret, a kiss on a first date is not a must. On the other hand, if you really enjoyed the evening, a peck on the cheek is just fine to show your appreciation followed up by a short text message or phone call later to thank him again for the wonderful night.
*Lastly, but not the least on how to impress your date is be yourself. Nothing leaves a bad impression more than you pretending to be someone you’re not. If you can’t sing, don’t. If you can’t dance, don’t insist to show your date some moves. Don’t make up stories just to make your date go ‘wow’. If they discover you fibbed about some details, their first good impression of you isn’t bound to last.
Remember that you are trying to impress your date and not deceive her/him. Show her/him your true colors and be hones.If you are a great person then, she/he will eventually see it. From the moment you begin to try too hard to conceal things from you date, the entire situation will unravel and your façade will be busted. Remember that if your date does not like you for who you are, there are a lot of people out there who will definitely like you. It is just a matter of presenting the best “you” out there.
Impressing a person is hard work but it is part and parcel of a good date. You don’t have to be too preoccupied with impressing him/her. Make sure to have fun with your date and make it a great first date for both of you. Do not work too hard, after all you have to be in the date together and as long as you both have fun, chances are that there will be a second date in store. However, if it doesn’t work out, don’t give up, there are plenty of other people out there who you can meet and date.
July 15th, 2009 at 7:15 am
Nice writing style. I look forward to reading more in the future.