No one wants to be in a bad relationship, but only a few have the knowledge how to fix relationships that aren’t working. Even the most compatible couples can go through a few bad patches in their life. One should remember that having a bad relationship is not what matters, what counts is the efforts one takes to get over it. Poor communication and misunderstandings hamper the bond. However, the chemistry can be revived if you determine what is wrong and what you need to do to fix it.

Healing your relationship means that you’ll have to review how you’ve contributed to the problem and what you need to to do fix it. Not what the two of you need to do, or what your significant other should do. Essentially, fixing a bad relationship means reconnecting with yourself. Here are some tips on how you can fix a relationship gone wrong.

* Determine what went wrong and accept responsibility for what you have done. Ask yourself what is actually wrong. Reviewing the whole situation and putting the blame on each other won’t move your relationship forward but instead, it creates anger and anxiety which are not conducive to your goal of a healthy relationship. You need to diagnose the problem so as to troubleshoot, accept responsibility, and fix it. You must look at how you’ve contributed to the problem as well as accept responsibility for your actions, intentional or otherwise.

* Review your relationship rules and notions. Most of the times, following the wrong rules can be the problem. Most people believe that there are rules with which to follow to ensure a healthy relationship. After finding what is lacking in your relationship, your role in the problem, and the wrong rules you blindly followed. It is time tp replace these defeatist actions and thoughts with positive, self-supporting and healthy rules to enable the kind of relationship you’ve always wanted.

* Mold a healthy relationship and reconnect with your partner. This is the stage where you are now ready to start putting your work into action. You’ve finally adopted some new ways of thinking, being and doing. You and your partner each knows what they need and want in a healthy relationship. This last step is definitely not easy and it takes a considerable amount of time but it is essential to have a successful happy relationship with your partner.

Getting ready for a first date can be overwhelming, especially if you’ve not been out of the dating game for awhile, or you are generally the silent type. One way to break the awkward silence is to strike up a conversation with them. You may become worried about coming up with things to talk about on the date. You want to learn about this person, have a great conversation and have it flow without a large amount of silences.

Here are some suggested topics that you can use to strike up a conversation with your date:

* Work. Work is usually a good topic for a first date. Ask them about what they do and how they got into their career. Ask them about their past education and career plans.

* Siblings. Talking about their sisters and brothers usually trigger good feelings and score points for you since you are showing a caring side and an interest in her family life.

* Travel. Ask about their past travel destinations and where she intends to visit in the future. If you and your date find that you have traveled to the same places, you can find all kinds of other things to talk about.

* Food. If the date is taking place at a restaurant or bar, talking about the kind of food and drinks each of you prefers. Not only can you determine whether you share culinary preferences or not, but the potential topics are endless.

* Hobbies and Interests. Ask them what activities they enjoy doing. What kind of music do they like? What sparks their interest? These e personal questions can help you determine how much of a bond exist between the two of you. This could also gain you some insights to follow-up questions.

And listed below is some topics you should try best to avoid in a first date conversation:

* Their past. Never ask about past lovers on a first date unless they initiate the topic themselves. They may have been hurt from a past relationship or may have unresolved feelings.

* Their parents. Asking about them could backfire, especially if their parents are divorced or separated when she was at a young age.

* Politics and Religion These topics, when used in a first date conversation, can be real turn off.

Bonus tip: Ask them a lot of questions, but remember to listen and form new questions around their answers. Also, try to be a listener. People sometimes talk too much when they feel nervous, so make it a point to constantly turn the conversation around, allowing your date to talk as well.

He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me! It would be so nice if guys were as easy to read as plucking petals off a daisy. Searching for a relationship with Mr. Right is not always that easy. There are, however, a few tell tale signs that guys give if they like you.

There’s no way to know for sure if a guy likes you unless you ask him (and even then he could get shy and say no!) so here are a few tips to help you work out if he likes you.

* Examine his body language. If he likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you, often leans towards you, and also looks at you a lot. If he slouches his shoulders when near you, he’s romantic and cares about what you have to say. If he points his shoulders and pelvis towards you while sitting, he is definitely feeling something for you.

* Notice his eye contact. If he likes you, he may either look away quickly if he is shy, or he’ll try to catch your eye and hold it or make faces. This can be uncomfortable if you don’t like him. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly, then there is something there. When he’s around you and he says/does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed, too. Also, he might stare at you, without being aware of the fact that others might be watching him. If he is rather shy, he will try and look away if you catch him staring at you. Watch out if you see a mischievous glint or an affectionate sparkle in his eyes when he looks at you. As for the more mischievous and bold guys, a playful wink might also do the trick.

* His pupils may dilate if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might come across as acting strangely by looking that closely into his eyes. If you’re around him for a long time, it could be easier to pick up on gradually.

* Listen to what he’s saying. If he likes you, and he’s nervous, he’ll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves- especially if you talk about another guy in his company.

*Be aware of touching. He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, and won’t move his leg if it happens to touch yours, or he may hug you for small things – all are good signs of a guy liking you, unless he’s a bit of a “playboy” who flirts with a lot of girls. See if he uses any of the tricks in How to Touch a Girl, and see if he uses them more with you than with anyone else.

* Watch his actions around other girls and see if he treats you differently. Some guys flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives them a chance to see your reaction. It helps them know if you really do like them or not. The way you can tell that they are trying to make you “jealous” is that they find little times when they’re flirting with the other girl to look at you. His eyes will flick over and look at you. Another sign is that when you leave, he stops flirting with the other girl. That will be a harder one to pick up on, but you can have a friend look for you or something like that. You have to be sneaky sometimes to find out if a guy likes you.

* Watch him showing interest in things you like and do. For example, if you like a certain genre of music that he likes as well, he may suggest bands or artists for you to listen to. Another example, if you play sports he may ask to play against you just to show off that he’s good at something you both like and then also have a reason to give you compliments as well. He opens his life to you and his personal interest.

* Check for signs of nervousness. Nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, looking away quickly when you notice if he is watching you are all good signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on someone he fancies.He blushes and sweat because he is intimadated at you.

* He tells someone. He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you’re from. He is trying to act like he’s “just asking” but his questions indicate more than a casual interest in you . And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He’s hoping it does.

* The conversation. Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He’s moving in to the ultimate question, which is: “Are you seeing anyone.” He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is “No.” Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn’t ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.

*He appears unexpectedly. He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, “Oh, hi,” is his way of saying, “I don’t want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you.” If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.

*Watch his Etiquettes. Yes, it is said that if a guy likes you he will try and impress you and will be at his very best behavior when you are around. He will open the door for you, hold out your chair if you go out for a meal, will look out for you while walking, will hold your hand while crossing the road and so on.

*Attention to details. The guy will go out of his way to entertain you, make you laugh in case you are in a group. He will always be listening very carefully when you are talking. He will try and grab you attention by cracking a joke, passing a comment. He will always ask for your opinion in every little thing

*He teases you because he wants you to remember and notice him. Don’t be offended if he is teasing or making fun of you. Guys are funny this way. Sometimes they do not know how to express themselves to their love interest, so they go about it by making up silly nicknames or teasing. Some guys will make fun of their friends in front of their crush to appear funny.

*Think back on conversations you have had with him. Does he remember the little things that you said? Guys remember little insignificant pieces of conversations when they like you. They are letting you know that they are interested in everything about you. This is a good sign of his desire to have a relationship with you.

*He seems to find reasons to be with or near you. Does he find ways to be closer to your body, near you, sit close or on the same side of the room as you? Does he want your opinion? Cares what you have to say? Does he seem to be around you often, when he can? Does his face lighten up or seem to go from stress to unstressed when you walk in or say hello? Beware, these are all the good signs that a guy probably likes you so much.

*Ask him out on a date. If he accepts, you’ll know he is interested. If a guy rejects a date without a good reason, he is probably not seeking a relationship with you.

*Pay attention to his friends. If they know he’s interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you’re around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Study their reactions to your presence – do they smile? Do they turn to him? Do they smirk in a way that suggests they know something that you don’t? If so, then there’s a good chance that they know that he really does like you.

*Check with your friends. Guys often take a greater interest in a girl’s friends as a way to get closer to her. Find out if he is asking about you when you are not around. Sometimes guys are too shy to express their interest in you, so they will go about it in a roundabout way.

* Don’t ignore him. If he shows genuine interest in you, (i.e. smiles at you a lot in the hallway, work, etc., at least go out for a walk.)

Finally, to make sure whether he likes you or not then you can go ahead and ask him. Do you fear rejection? Well, he can say no to you, that is for sure, but think a little. You will save a lot of time and you will not daydream without any guarantees that something will ever happen between you two.

To keep away from any embarrassing situations, try to ask the right questions. If he says he does not like you, you may say the same thing and treat everything as a joke. Or, if you ask him if he likes you as a friend, then you can also strengthen this supposition by saying that you also care for him as a friend. See? You get out of it elegantly and smoothly. But if he likes you and not as his friend, then you are on the right path.

When you do the things that are sure to make a man feel that gut level attraction that goes deeper than just his physical attraction and desires, then he’ll do and try anything to be close to you. Is it amazing? Yes, of course. What you have to do is to learn. It’s a skill and it is not a magic, and I honestly believe that any woman can learn it if she wants. Good luck!

It is often very stressful for a person to date or even try to date when they’re shy. A shy person is often anxious or uneasy around the opposite sex and in dating situations. Many shy people are wrongly getting tabbed as being snobbish or weird, when in fact they simply lack self-confidence and uncertain how to communicate their feelings. The fear of rejection can be oftentimes the cause of shyness in dating.

If you are one of those people who struggles with timidity in dating, this tips may help you overcome your shyness:

* Perfect your posture. Pull your stomach in when standing. Your spine would naturally align and your back is straightened. An erect posture can give out a sign of confidence. Practice doing this until it looks natural.

* Avoid crossing your arms. Crossing your arms while you’re talking to another person can make you look defensive. This can be stand-offish sometimes.

* Make yourself easy to talk to. When you meet someone you are interested in, be curious about this person. Ask open-ended questions and talk about mutual interests to keep the conversation going.

* Try to make the first move. Stand close enough to the person you want to have a conversation with. Catch their eye and smile briefly. When they smile back and make direct eye contact, they are open to talking. Striking up a conversation first may seem difficult at first, but you would get used to it once more and more people talk to you, slowly building up your confidence.

* Give a compliment. If you don’t know how to start a conversation, give a compliment. Make a truthful compliment at the other person you want to talk to. However, steer clear from the obvious body parts. Say something that will make the other person proud, such as his or her laugh, positive attitude, or confidence among others. Remember, be honest.

* Watch their reaction. If the person is happy to continue chatting with you, their smile would get wider, they would move closer and lean towards you. If they don’t instantly drip with enthusiasm, don’t worry because other people get nervous too.

Bonus tip: When asking people out, start by chatting the the new person about the activity you are both participating in and then ask them if they would like to get together some other time. A brief coffee or lunch usually works best.

Telling someone you care about them can be difficult in the best of circumstances. We say I love you to family as a matter of course, but how often do we express to them how much we like them? Telling someone of the opposite sex that you like and interested in them is much tougher and difficult to express.It is a nerve-racking experience.

Many people are naturally shy and nervous around people of the opposite sex, but if you’re one of them there are plenty of ways to overcome your shyness and gain the courage you need to tell that special person that you love them with all your heart. If you are to shy to tell it to him/her what you feel then express your feelings through actions..as we all know “Action speaks louder than words”.You can build up the courage and the comfort you need to say that you like them.

*Don’t be afraid of your feelings. When you hesitate to tell someone how you feel about them it’s because our feelings make us vulnerable. If you like someone, don’t let how they feel about you prevent you from experiencing your own emotions.

*Arrange to speak to the object of your affections in private. Privacy protects both of you from the vulnerability you are about to expose. Consider for a moment how you would feel if this person told you that he or she liked you.

*Use conversation to achieve your objective. In other words, don’t blurt it out, but don’t shrink away from saying it. You may say it as simply as: “I like you.” or “I’m intersted in you.” Or you may be more objective and say “I think you and I have a spark and a connection and I’d like to see where it goes. Care to find out with me?”

*Use your own language. Don’t say ‘um’ and don’t hesitate too much. If you find yourself pausing significantly, then you’re not ready to commit to your feelings to the one you like.

*Trust your instincts. Sometimes how you feel will blurt out in the middle of an argument, a movie or another moment of intense emotion. Sometimes you can’t control when that moment will happen. If you’re ready to tell someone how you feel, do it.

*Decide what you want to say, how you want to say it, and when and where you want to say it. Preparing a small speech beforehand will ease some of the tension. It will also keep you from stuttering or mumbling, and possibly looking awkward in front of the one you like. Furthermore, choose an opportune moment and place for your confession, such as when the two of you are alone together in a private location.

*Make sure that you are emotionally ready to take this important step(Rejection). It is imperative that you realize there is always the possibility of rejection. If someone you like doesn’t return the sentiment, you might find yourself extremely hurt or disappointed. Before you actually tell him how you feel, give yourself plenty of time to reflect on your decision.
*Prepare for her/his reaction. She/He may or may not feel the same way. Hopefully,someone you like will respond in kind. However, anticipating a possible rejection will help to lessen feelings of disappointment. In contrast, getting your hopes up will make a rejection that much more painful.
*Tell him/her how you feel. You can either say it directly ,or write him/her a note, or ask him out on a date. This is the hardest step, but you’ll be relieved once it’s over. Luckily, there is more than one way of divulging your feelings for another person. You can write him/her a cute little note, or ask a mutual friend to break the news. You can also ask him/her out on a traditional date, like dinner and a movie, and then tell him/her that you would like to date exclusively.

*Accept there response in a dignified manner. No matter what they say, accept it gracefully and thank them for being honest. If they tells you that they are not interested, it would be best not to dwell on it and try to move on.